How You Know It’s Over Before It Ends

We like to complicate people. We look too far and too deep in the direction of all the ways they are lost and confused and misunderstood because it comforts us. Complicating people gives us hope.  ​We can rest on the possibility that their leaving is because of some underlying issue we can’t understand yet, not…

6 Ways We Warp The Concept Of Self-Love

​ 1. When we use it as an excuse notto try.I understand – entirely and fully – that we have to love and accept ourselves before we’re able to effectively move forwards with ourlives. However, too much of the self-love that we’re preached through the media does not have any focus on self-improvement. “You’re a…

Date Someone You Don’t Have To Impress

Date someone you can be goofy with. Someone who can embrace your silliness, someone who joins you in your absurdity and someone who doesn’t ask you to act in a certain way or speak in a certain manner so you can attract them. Date someone who is impressed by originality, by authenticity and by how…

Do I Miss You, Or Do I Miss The Idea Of You?

There’s that old familiar saying, ‘you never know what you have until you don’t have it anymore.’ I can’t help but to go back and forth with my thoughts, wondering if this is the situation I am finding now myself in. Do I miss you? Or do I miss the idea of you?We didn’t speak…

Letter from a girl who was molested 

​It’s true what the statistics say: It’s someone you know. Most sexual abuse offenders pick those they are familiar with. Thirty percent are family relatives. I stayed up nights running my fingers over these stats like they were rosary beads.Fathers. Uncles. Brothers. For me, it was mummy’s first cousin. I wonder who else I might…

How I Ended Up Losing My Virginity

Don’t let the title fool you, for this won’t involve steamy bed sheets, loud moans and fireworks. Instead, this is about a girl who religiously checked under her bed for monsters. What she didn’t realize is that monsters appear in all shapes and sizes. Not realizing that the devil itself could appear to be so…

Confessions Of A Conflicted Homewrecker

This time last year, I gained the infamous label of “homewrecker”. I spent the night with a guy who was dating someone for a little more than a year at the time. You may be disgusted to read that I didn’t have remorse for that night. I wasn’t thinking of Anna*. I was only thinking…

Principles For Setting Definite Dates

1) It’s always best to ask, “When are you free to get together?” or “What’s your schedule like this coming week?” or “What’s your schedule availability like this week to meet up?” It’s much easier to ask her when she is available, and then pick one of those days and times that you are also…

Can Attracting Women Be Learned?

i think a fundamental question faced by men in the pursuit of attracting women is: Can attracting women be learned? Is it a result of genetics  of having been gifted with prominent cheekbones, lean muscularity or a sizable organ? Or perhaps having a prominent checkbook and the right surname? Is it about having a naturally…